I've heard wind of this song for a few weeks now, but finally experienced it on the radio this afternoon on my way to a princess party. A little T-Pain to get me prepped for some face-painting, balloon animal, princessy fun. You know. Actually it came on right after the "Umbrella" remix, which seemed much more appropriate considering that I was playing Cindy (whom we refer to as such for copyright purposes) at the party today. "You can be my Cinderella...ella...ella, eh eh eh...." But I digress.
I heard "Buy You a Drank" again via Justine in her car and it started me wondering about the implications of doing as the song says...letting a guy buy me a drink. Or drank. Whichever it may be. A friend of mine recently admitted that one of her friends--a just-a-friend--bought 70 dollar tickets to take her to the ballet. Is that allowed? Can she accept that sort of thing without owing him something? Or is she leading him on by allowing him to treat her kindly? Personally, I'm obnoxious when it comes to people doing nice things for me. I can't help but wonder what they really want--I'm always looking for the hidden request behind the action. On a date, I tend to calm down some since (usually) we've already established that he's interested, so I'm not confused about why he is showing me special attention--he's interested. But at a bar it's a whole new ball game. Does a drink mean I have to dance with you? Talk to you? Go home with you? And what is the proper way of rejecting such attention? The bartender or waitress brings it over to you, "This is from that man over there." And if I'm not interested, do I smile politely and refuse the drink? I'm not one to let good alcohol go to waste, but it seems that it would just be wrong to accept a gift of sorts without at least humoring the guy. And generally I'm not in the mood. There has to be some proper way to handle such a situation with the utmost etiquette. But how?
Oh Emily Post, where are you when I need you?
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If a guy buys a you a drink you should take it but only if it is brought to you by the bartender, is the same thing that you are drinking and a step up in the quality of alcohol. If the guy is a proper gentleman and his mom raised him right, he will nod and smile a little, but never grin, as if he was taking off his hat to whatever it is that he finds so captivating, something that he wouldn't be afraid to share with you. He will wait and let you get comfortable with the idea of being appreciated by a complete stranger before he gets any closer. You should at least find the gift flattering for the same reason you do when the door is held open. The choice is yours whether you are approached any further. the guy? He waits. He should only have the smallest glimmer of expectation. if you let him he will approach with a slight caution. The rest is up to you. you are the the one with the ultimate say, the one holding the yes or the no.
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